This has been fun to follow. Here's my 2 cents:
Relationship building matters less than it did 5 years ago; or even 3 years ago. If you weren't talking to stud HS players when they were in either the 9th or 10th grade, you were left behind as a coaching staff. Long term relationship was 80-90% of what drove recruit choice
Relationship still matters; but now it's below 50%. Relationship gets you to your senior year and drives the recruit top 3 or 5 schools...after that, it's an NIL bidding game now
For current rostered players; relationship is less than 20%...1) am I getting playing time 2) will I get playing time 3) NIL $$ amounts vs my other options drive decisions now ...
2023 NCAA rosters were 21% transfer players; that number was 6% in 2019; half of D1 teams played a transfer QB (57%)
The last data point I had before the playoffs were over had the average number of transfers per team in the SEC and Big10 over 20 (I think it was 22; but + or - two). Any staff will have to be able to replace minimally 1/4 of their program via transfers going forward + sign a new recruiting class. So basically, you have to be able to replace over 1/2 your roster every year thru a combo of recruiting and transfers. The number of transfer players will increase as we go forward; not decline (in spite of the risk of not landing on a roster being quite high now)
So, given this environment, what matters is being able to both recruit effectively and replenish the obvious transfers that are going to happen. I don't think relationship has much to do with any of this any longer. The "rules" or lack of rules, makes this highly transactional now. The only school I see bucking this trend at present is UGA (I think they had less than 8 transfers).
Talent management success will be determined by how effective the organization built can manage these dynamics. And, you have to be able to coach the actual games, while doing all of the above.
The verdict is still out on CHF. He needs to deliver an actual winning season before declaring him "better" than others at this new world.