Advice

[imsoauburn 0]

I know i cant be the only person thats been 20 years old thats been completely lost and not known what in the world they wanted to do with their life. So if anybody has any advice for somebody that is in that situation please lend some advice if there is any. I know im the only person who can figure it out but gee its not easy at all.

Random post i know but i dont know what in the world to do with myself.

[styxfan34 0]

If you don't mind me asking: anything in particular that's wrong?

[imsoauburn 0]

I graduated high school in 2008 in Knoxville. That summer I started "dating" my now Girlfriend which had been one of my best friends for a few years already at the time. Well I  had to move away to Georgia because of my Dads job. There I couldnt find a job to save my life. So after 5 months there I ended up actually getting to move back to Knoxville, well I blew the hell out of my shot there because I THOUGHT I was gonna be going to school and messed things up with my job there. While I was in Knoxville my dads job(Russell Athletic) got moved to Bowling Green, KY. Since things didnt work out in Knoxville I had to move back in with my parents here in Bowling Green. I am just working a part time job and have no plan and cant figure it out for the life of me! Its very frustrating. Especially when you are in a relationship and you cant even begin to come up with a plan of how you are gonna be with that person again and you aren’t making any progress while away from them. Makes you absolutely crazy. College is an option...but I dont wanna get into something that cost that much without even knowing what the heck I am going there for. Im still in a relationship with my GF and thats not gonna change, there are no problems besides the fact that we’ve went from spending everyday together to seeing each other once every 3 months(cant get off work barely ever for a weekend) and the fact that our schedules are completely opposite(im going in to work when she is getting off). I have bounced around with so many things in the past few years with what I think im gonna do with my life. Why is it so hard to figure it out? Im just looking for as much advice as i can get. Ive talked to family and friends about it. I realize that life is tough for everybody, im not trying to complain I just really dont know how to figure it out. Just running in place…..

If i could figure out what i wanted to do i could atleast be working towards something.

I guess maybe a good question would be...For people who had the problem of not knowing what to do, how did it come to you? How did you figure it out?

It doesnt help that im indecisive as all get out.

I feel like i fool posting this on here but what the heck do i have to lose.

[styxfan34 0]

I too went through a phase where I didn't know what to do either. My gf slept with my roommate and haven't spoken to either since. I figure they deserve each other. My one escape has always been sports. Then I found out that Kennesaw State offered a degree in Sport Management, and I've got roughly a year and a half to go;god willing. Another thing that someone helped me realize was that like you, I had plenty of time to figure it out. So don't rush in making your decision. I have a friend whose #1 goal was to be a big shot business man and make money. Now, he's 30 and doing just that, but not at all happy because he's knows he's doing just for the money instead of enjoyment. So I would suggest you try and find something you really enjoy and go from there. Finally, never feel like a fool for asking for help. Nobody can do it all themselves and sometimes we all need a little help. I realize my situation prob. wasn't as rough as yours, but I hope it helps none the less. WDE!

[EagleFlight34 101]

PM your way Imso.

[around4ever 4,139]

I have learned over the years, never hesitiate to ask for help or advice.  Most people are willing to help.

Even though you don't know what you want to do for a living right now, my first suggestion would be find a way to attend a Junior / Community College and start knocking out some core classes, Englishes, Maths, Histories, Sciences, etc., that will transfer to any major.  You can start out in Business Administration or Business Management at most any of the JCs.  That will put you in most of the core classes.  You can continue working while you do this.  Many of these classes can be done online so you don't have to go to class every day.  Secondly, finding a field that you enjoy is a very good suggestion.  Unfortunately, that doesn't always work out.  There are probably many of us who enjoy our work but it would not necessarily be our first choice if we had to choose over again.  The main thing is to work on your education while you are working.  Even an Associate Degree is a leg up in many fields.  Not knowing what your interests are it is impossible to tell you what field to go in to.   But you don't have to decide today.  You are two years away from having to really start moving toward a degree in something specialized.   The majority of 20 year olds are in the same boat you are in.  They don't know what they want to do either.   So you are in the majority.  Good luck imso. 

[autkidd1345162876 4]

The only major bit of advice I can offer... Is do not go off to a 4-year school if you aren't ready. I made that mistake by going to Auburn right out of high school and was not ready to do that, and got in major academic trouble because of that. The junior college route is a really good plus.

If you are into golf at all... Look at that as a career. There are many routes you can take with that industry, from being a F&B manager, teaching pro, general manager, or what I'm in, the maintenance side as a superintendent.

[smuphy72wde 0]

Okay, I was in a similar problem a little over a year ago.    I was 19, a year removed from high school, and I had no clue what to do with my life.   I just woke up and realized one morning I had to get back in school so I went to a local Junior College and I've been busting my tail ever since and now I'm enrolling in Auburn after the fall semester to work towards my journalism degree.  Best advice I can give is to sit down and pray about it brother and make the decision you think is best for YOU not everyone around you.

[Weegle777 78]

That's the best advice, well said Smuphy.

[styxfan34 0]

and above all else remember not to do it for anyone else but yourself.

[WDEAUB 0]

There has been several good pieces of advice given already. Definitely take heed in what styx, a4e, and especially smuphy all said. I will add one thing. Although you are in a very tough situation, it's not THAT out of the norm. On a bright side, you haven't wasted all that much time. I knew I wanted to be an architect since my freshman year at OHS. I spent 3 and a half years of college tailored specifically toward my architectural degree. Then I realized it wasn't for me. I loved designing buildings and just working with CAD in general, but I had no interest in knowing the difference in soil samples and steel ratings, and those type physics. I wasted a ton of time and money (all of which was mine!).

Another thing, sometimes if you just take a break from searching, what you're looking for falls right in your lap.

[CRuthven 0]

back in 2004, i was in the same situation kinda. not knowing what to do. well finally i just decided to join the navy. best thing i couldve done at the time. what i got out of it was: experienced 15 countries, got a steady paycheck with full health and dental, and college paid for when i got out, plus more. in reality, its truely a good opportunity and will open doors for you down the road. if you wanna know more just PM me

[imsoauburn 0]

Thank you all so much for all the advice. Really appreciate it. Hopefully i can figure this out soon.

[Bro Johnny Mac 1,478]

What are you truly passionate about?What ever that is,pursue it,and work hard at it.I know this sounds kind of cheezy,but if you pursue what you are passionate about,you will be happy and at peace,and you will never have  just a job,but you will have something you look forward to doing.

  If you havent found your passion yet,pray,pray and pray some more,get into God's word,and start trying to do His will,and every thing else kind of falls into place.praying for you brother..

[TheMayorOfChillville 31]

Dear Imso,

The Mayor has lived many lifetimes in his 30 something years and his advice is invaluable. I'm going to give you the secret to happiness right now.... ....Are you ready? Take a deep breath of air or something and Chill...When I was your age I was only on my 2nd life. Now, I'm on my 5th. You're young...You've got plenty of time....Just Chill...

And what everybody else said was good too, so think about that if you want. 

[The Defiant 133]

I'll be a straight shooter when i started out Auburn i came from Southern Union, and it was a whole nother degree of hard my advisors in COSAM were in all out screw ya mode, and i took their advice instead of my own.  So my first semester i dropped every single one of my classes except four hours and went on a drinking binge.  I went back to the COSAM advisor and asked for some help and she said fill out your classes and after you do that I'll help.  I did that and she still didn't help me so I asked for my student folder and an was done with COSAM.  I went to the Buisiness school at Lowder after experimenting with computer software classes, and never looked back.  I would highly advise you to check out logistics it's a good major and it's always in high demand.  The classwork isnt' that bad but since there is such a high demand you get great pay.  The ultimate piece of advice is do what you like man, it's never a better feeling than having a job you love and can't wait to get up to.