Y’all Beating your kids in a circle?

[TexasTiger 12,948]

Cuz I hear that’s love.

https://www.wunc.org/politics/2024-04-12/mark-robinson-corporal-punishment-children-schools

[I_M4_AU 7,857]

I have and I recommend it when appropriate.

[DKW 86 7,426]

8 hours ago, TexasTiger said:

Cuz I hear that’s love.

https://www.wunc.org/politics/2024-04-12/mark-robinson-corporal-punishment-children-schools

Reprimanding kids is what parents are supposed to do. 

Love is not being a helicopter parent.

[TexasTiger 12,948]

6 minutes ago, DKW 86 said:

Reprimanding kids is what parents are supposed to do. 

Love is not being a helicopter parent.

Absolutely believe in accountability and consequences to one’s actions. That doesn’t require beating in a circle.

[Leftfield 2,610]

Before I get ticked off, I guess I need clarification: What is beating in a circle? Have never heard that phrase before (sounds uncomfortably close to another phrase).

Hoping it's a figure of speech referring to spanking, because otherwise I'll be sorely disappointed in some of these responses.

[I_M4_AU 7,857]

2 minutes ago, Leftfield said:

Before I get ticked off, I guess I need clarification: What is beating in a circle? Have never heard that phrase before (sounds uncomfortably close to another phrase).

Hoping it's a figure of speech referring to spanking, because otherwise I'll be sorely disappointed in some of these responses.

As he explains; you hold your child by one arm and spank them.  The child will try to get away from you, but when you have one arm they can only run around in a circle.  Here is a clip he demonstrates it.

 

[Leftfield 2,610]

1 minute ago, I_M4_AU said:

As he explains; you hold your child by one arm and spank them.  The child will try to get away from you, but when you have one arm they can only run around in a circle.  Here is a clip he demonstrates it.

 

Thank you.

Not nearly as bad as it initially sounded, but can't understand why he would use "beat" instead of "spank." Horrible connotations with that word.

 

[I_M4_AU 7,857]

14 minutes ago, Leftfield said:

Horrible connotations with that word.

He is not a polished political figure, part of his likability.

[Leftfield 2,610]

5 minutes ago, I_M4_AU said:

...part of his likability.

Not in this case.

[TexasTiger 12,948]

19 minutes ago, I_M4_AU said:

He is not a polished political figure, part of his likability.

He’s a political figure who hasn’t learned to communicate more effectively. 

[TexasTiger 12,948]

42 minutes ago, I_M4_AU said:

As he explains; you hold your child by one arm and spank them.  The child will try to get away from you, but when you have one arm they can only run around in a circle.  Here is a clip he demonstrates it.

 

If Jesus believed beating children in a circle should be preached and applauded in his Church, wouldn’t that have made it to the Gospel?

[DKW 86 7,426]

2 hours ago, Leftfield said:

Thank you.

Not nearly as bad as it initially sounded, but can't understand why he would use "beat" instead of "spank." Horrible connotations with that word.

 

Cultural

 

[DKW 86 7,426]

2 hours ago, TexasTiger said:

Absolutely believe in accountability and consequences to one’s actions. That doesn’t require beating in a circle.

IDK, I am famous in my family for giving my son 4 good whacks at church one day. 

I went into the backyard to work on the pool. My wife was keeping the staff kids for an early morning staff meeting so she went on in early. My 6-7-year-old son watched me change into my suit as I went to work on the pool. He was on the couch. He must have been about half asleep. He kind of came to himself and even though the pool door was still open he decided his mom and I had left him at the house and went on to church. He got himself dressed, got his bible, and got the hungover as hell neighbor from across the street to take him to church. His wife was out of town and he thru the wildest party we have seen here in the neighborhood in 30 years or more. They left my backdoor open, the garage door up, and my truck in the driveway. How both of them didn't notice my truck IDK. I came into the house, could not find my son, found the backdoor open, and garage door open, and guessed he had been kidnapped or had walked out of the house. I tore up and down every street in the neighborhood doing 90+ looking for him. I called my wife and daughter innumerable times and neither one would answer the phone. Two women with phones permanently glued in their hands. You never see one without a phone in their hands, EVER. At this point, I HAD TOTALLY FREAKED. TTTOOOTTTAAALLLLLLYYYY FREAKED. I was likely seriously close to a heart attack.  I was dialing the Decatur Police Dept when a strange number dialed my phone. I answered truly expecting it to be a kidnapper who was likely sexually abusing my son. Instead, it was a lady from the church calling me to tell me that Ethan had arrived with a strange man driving him up to the church. I figured out what had happened at that point.

I went to the church, after having THE WORST ******* DAY OF MY LIFE, I didn't calm down till late in the afternoon. I found my son and discussed it with him and took him into the bathroom and circle-beat him with four sound whacks across his ass. It was so loud that every child and teacher in the children's building heard it. My son has been in trouble only one other day in his life. He finished school with a 4.16 and ranked 11th in his class. He got a full scholarship to JSU and will graduate in 3 weeks or so with 3.96? GPA and on the President's List. 

So, circle beating is sometimes warranted and can be very successful in correcting behavior. 

Edited April 14 by DKW 86

[TexasTiger 12,948]

3 minutes ago, DKW 86 said:

IDK, I am famous in my family for giving my son 4 good whacks at church one day. 

I went into the backyard to work on the pool. My wife was keeping the staff kids for an early morning staff meeting so she went on in early. My 6-7-year-old son watched me change into my suit as I went to work on the pool. He was on the couch. He must have been about half asleep. He kind of came to himself and even though the pool door was still open he decided his mom and I had left him at the house and went on to church. He got himself dressed, got his bible, and got the hungover as hell neighbor from across the street to take him to church. His wife was out of town and he thru the wildest party we have seen here in the neighborhood in 30 years or more. They left my backdoor open, the garage door up, and my truck in the driveway. How both of them didn't notice my truck IDK. I came into the house, could not find my son, found the backdoor open, and garage door open, and guessed he had been kidnapped or had walked out of the house. I tore up and down every street in the neighborhood doing 90+ looking for him. I called my wife and daughter innumerable times and neither one would answer the phone. Two women with phones permanently glued in their hands. You never see one without a phone in their hands, EVER. At this point, I HAD TOTALLY FREAKED. TTTOOOTTTAAALLLLLLYYYY FREAKED. I was likely seriously close to a heart attack.  I was dialing the Decatur Police Dept when a strange number dialed my phone. I answered truly expecting it to be a kidnapper who was likely sexually abusing my son. Instead, it was a lady from the church calling me to tell me that Ethan had arrived with a strange man driving him up to the church. I figured out what had happened at that point.

I went to the church, after having THE WORST ******* DAY OF MY LIFE, I didn't calm down till late in the afternoon. I found my son and discussed it with him and took him into the bathroom and circle-beat him with four sound whacks across his ass. My son has been in trouble only one other day in his life. Finished school with a 4.16 and ranked 11th in his class. He went to JSU and will graduate in 3 weeks or so with 3.96? GPA and on the President's List. 

So, circle beating is sometimes warranted and can be very successful in correcting behavior. 

Most circle beatings are expressions of anger, like this one.

[DKW 86 7,426]

1 minute ago, TexasTiger said:

Most circle beatings are expressions of anger, like this one.

And of course you would state something like that...GFY

[TexasTiger 12,948]

Just now, DKW 86 said:

And of course you would state something like that...GFY

Is it not true?

[DKW 86 7,426]

Just now, TexasTiger said:

Is it not true?

Whatever you say man, I am truly sorry I wasted the time coming here to deal with fools like yourself. 

[Leftfield 2,610]

1 minute ago, DKW 86 said:

Whatever you say man, I am truly sorry I wasted the time coming here to deal with fools like yourself. 

Then mark me as a fool, as well. 

He's right...you were pissed and took it out on him. I was guilty of it at times myself, but I never bragged about it.

Do you seriously think the reason he did well in life was because of that incident? The fact he took it upon himself to get dressed and find someone to take him to Church speaks more to that than your punishment. 

[TexasTiger 12,948]

6 minutes ago, DKW 86 said:

Whatever you say man, I am truly sorry I wasted the time coming here to deal with fools like yourself. 

I’m sure you and your wife did other great things that contributed to his success. I doubt this episode was the critical piece of the puzzle.

[Mims44 1,872]

15 minutes ago, DKW 86 said:

IDK, I am famous in my family for giving my son 4 good whacks at church one day. 

I went into the backyard to work on the pool. My wife was keeping the staff kids for an early morning staff meeting so she went on in early. My 6-7-year-old son watched me change into my suit as I went to work on the pool. He was on the couch. He must have been about half asleep. He kind of came to himself and even though the pool door was still open he decided his mom and I had left him at the house and went on to church. He got himself dressed, got his bible, and got the hungover as hell neighbor from across the street to take him to church. His wife was out of town and he thru the wildest party we have seen here in the neighborhood in 30 years or more. They left my backdoor open, the garage door up, and my truck in the driveway. How both of them didn't notice my truck IDK. I came into the house, could not find my son, found the backdoor open, and garage door open, and guessed he had been kidnapped or had walked out of the house. I tore up and down every street in the neighborhood doing 90+ looking for him. I called my wife and daughter innumerable times and neither one would answer the phone. Two women with phones permanently glued in their hands. You never see one without a phone in their hands, EVER. At this point, I HAD TOTALLY FREAKED. TTTOOOTTTAAALLLLLLYYYY FREAKED. I was likely seriously close to a heart attack.  I was dialing the Decatur Police Dept when a strange number dialed my phone. I answered truly expecting it to be a kidnapper who was likely sexually abusing my son. Instead, it was a lady from the church calling me to tell me that Ethan had arrived with a strange man driving him up to the church. I figured out what had happened at that point.

I went to the church, after having THE WORST ******* DAY OF MY LIFE, I didn't calm down till late in the afternoon. I found my son and discussed it with him and took him into the bathroom and circle-beat him with four sound whacks across his ass. My son has been in trouble only one other day in his life. Finished school with a 4.16 and ranked 11th in his class. He went to JSU and will graduate in 3 weeks or so with 3.96? GPA and on the President's List. 

So, circle beating is sometimes warranted and can be very successful in correcting behavior. 

I get your point of view for sure... but dang man, I'd have been too astounded to even punish him  

Kid is 6, realized he needed to be somewhere, saw his usual ways of getting to that place was unavailable. Still got himself 100% ready and then went out of his home to procure transportation for himself and got where he needed to be.

 

9 minutes ago, TexasTiger said:

Most circle beatings are expressions of anger, like this one.

I've always tried to avoid that. Not a "never spanker" but usually used as a deterrent towards danger.

Kid may not have proper respect for the cliff he's near, but if he hears he'll get a spanking if he gets close to the edge he'll not likely walk to the edge.

[Leftfield 2,610]

3 minutes ago, Mims44 said:

I've always tried to avoid that. Not a "never spanker" but usually used as a deterrent towards danger.

Kid may not have proper respect for the cliff he's near, but if he hears he'll get a spanking if he gets close to the edge he'll not likely walk to the edge.

Agreed. I didn't spank much, but when I did it was usually a firm swat, and when they were 2-4 years old. You can't reason with them at that age. They just don't have the capacity to understand or communicate. I'm generalizing, of course, and maybe there are circumstances with his son that I don't know, but by 6-7 the spankings were pretty much done. Kids still mess up but at least you can explain how they messed up. Just seeing the anger is usually enough for them by that point.

I'd have been more ticked at the neighbor. Talk about someone who needed punishment.

[TexasTiger 12,948]

1 minute ago, Leftfield said:

I'd have been more ticked at the neighbor. Talk about someone who needed punishment.

Beat that SOB in a circle. 😉

[Mims44 1,872]

1 minute ago, Leftfield said:

Agreed. I didn't spank much, but when I did it was usually a firm swat, and when they were 2-4 years old. You can't reason with them at that age. They just don't have the capacity to understand or communicate. I'm generalizing, of course, and maybe there are circumstances with his son that I don't know, but by 6-7 the spankings were pretty much done. Kids still mess up but at least you can explain how they messed up. Just seeing the anger is usually enough for them by that point.

I'd have been more ticked at the neighbor. Talk about someone who needed punishment.

That is a good point.

@DKW 86 Did you circle beat that neighbor of yours?  

[auburnatl1 4,959]

I’m  a huge advocate of corrections, consequences, and tough love. Grounding for weeks, taking away privileges, standing in corner (depending on age) ect. But not of spanking. I’ll leave it at that.

[I_M4_AU 7,857]

1 hour ago, TexasTiger said:

Most circle beatings are expressions of anger, like this one.

Naturally missed the point.  Yes it was out of anger, but sometimes, not often mind you, you have to express to a child what he did was not the way it should have been handled and it caused concern for the parent.  Taking him aside and explaining it to him will last two minutes after the rant.  *Circle beating him* lasted longer and probably gave him a better understanding of the grief it caused dad.

If dad enjoys the beating and it happens too much, yes it is the wrong method of discipline.  Holding this type of corrective action should only happen once in a while and the child knows when he/she has really crossed the line.

There is an old saying (joke) “son, this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you”.  I never understood it until I had kids.